🧘🏽‍♀️🗡️Philomena Warned Me™ – Soft Boundaries & Savage Truths

 They always say “set boundaries.”

But what they don’t say is:
The moment you do… someone will treat it like a betrayal.

They’ll call you cold.
Selfish.
Unreasonable.
Or just “not who you used to be.”

That’s because they didn’t love you — they loved your compliance.

☁️ Reflector Problems: People Want Your Mirror, Not Your Edges

As a Reflector, I’ve noticed something strange:
People are drawn to my softness — but only until it reflects something they don’t want to see.

The moment I get tired of emotional babysitting…
The moment I return energy instead of absorbing it…
The moment I say “That’s not mine to carry” —
they flinch.

Because what they really wanted was a free therapist with spiritual vibes.
Not an actual mirror.


My nervous system saw the package… and walked the other way.


⚖️ Boundaries Are Not Barriers

I don’t set boundaries to be harsh.
I set them so I don’t become resentful.
I set them so I can keep loving from truth, not exhaustion.

Boundaries are not rejection.
They’re recognition:

This is who I am. This is what I need.
And if you can’t honor that — I’ll still release you gently.

I’ve outgrown the performance of pleasing.
I’m not here to make everyone comfortable.
I’m here to live cleanly, honestly, and reflectively — even if that means being misunderstood.

🕯️ Reflector Note:
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~ HingsLotus 🛡️🪞

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